Happiness doesn’t comes to you ,it comes from you. Happiness is a choice not result. Nothing will make you happy untill you choose to be happy.
We over stress at times and we tend to over think in most of circumstances. Over thinking kills, we are dying of over thinking. It turns into negativity.
By stressing over and continuously thinking about everything, we are slowly killing ourselves. It only turns into sadness and loss of inner peace. The more you over think the less you understand. The more you flood your mind with thoughts , lesser will be space for peace in your heart. Over thinking eats your positivity and happiness and drowns you in negativity and stress.
We need not to stress over things and think too much, that’s not the solution to any issue. A relaxed mind has the natural ability to overcome problems of life. It’s awarded and efficient
You have this power called ‘love’ ,love yourself first.
Give up what weighs you down, only then you can fly. Encourage yourself, and never doubt your capabilities. No-one can pull you down except yourself or without your permission. Self love is powerful and when you love who you are, your relationships will be healthier and your life will be happier. Self love sets the bars for how you allow others to treat you.
Peace is natural state of mind, it’s your thoughts that destroy it.
Be in the moment, be in peace.
Let life flow with you ,not against you.
If you really want to check onto people, if they’ll stay or not, show them your true emotional side, tell them how heavy is your heart that you carry inside your chest. Speak to them of your anxiety & insecurities., And what demons you fight to get through everyday. And you’d be a little surprised to see that the people who made promises to be at your side would leave. People who once told you ,that you’re their everything , would get tired to listening to your dramatically sad life. They can’t just ‘ ‘listen’ , you didn’t asked for any favour, you didn’t asked for help. You just wanted them to listen ,about how you feel, n’ what keeps you awake at night, But it would break your heart that they didn’t got patience to ‘listen’
It’s sad to see that majority of people unwilling & unknowingly leave their loved ones, their friends or their kids in despair, just because they didn’t ‘listened’. May be it was the time when your loved one was at their emotional peak, & they just wanted to open up their heart to you. And wanna hear the words ‘it’ll be alright, am here, I can feel you.’
Well I had always thought that God has given us one(1) tongue(mouth) & two(2) ears – so that we can talk less n’ listen more. So we need to pay attention to our loved ones, listen to them, spend time with them. As you know well time is the most precious gift that you can give to someone. People say “we had quality time with family” but they ignore the fact that they are more in need of ‘quantity time’.
We humans wander through the brush of life to be in embrace of another human. The ultimate need of a human is another human being.
If you have to sneak to do it, lie to cover it up, or delete it to avoid it being seen. Then you probably shouldn’t be doing it.
It’s really hard to cope with a narcissist. With them everything is really not possible cuz one just can’t really survive with a narcissist. They hold grudges against you, for the things they did to you. They accuse others of what actually is an unconscious admission of their own character.
Narcissists can’t think about fixing themselves cuz they believe nothing is really wrong with them, but everyone around them is wrong, cruel and unkind to them.
And it’s heart breaking what they can actually do. They ruin people’s lives and move on like they did nothing wrong. They move on with no remorse, they don’t know what guilt is, cuz according to their belief they are the righteous. My experience with a narcissist says, their favourite sport is ‘the blame game’. They always need someone to put the blames on. They blame others for failures, bad physical health, and anything that’s not going good in their life. They keep telling you that you are toxic in their life. Narcissist uses their ex as an excuse for why they are in a merciful condition, when the reality is exactly the opposite.
Whatever a narcissist do is for a complete show off. They would help the helpless only to create a ‘fake nice image’ to the outside world. They love to pretend how great and kind they are.
What I have most observed in a narcissist is ,they claim themselves as victor as well as the victim at the very same moment , one just can’t figure out how to treat them at the moment. If one would treat them as victor ,they feel that the person is careless about them ,and not Interested in their issues!! And if they are treated like a victim, they get offended. It’s really hard to put up with such people.
They are exceptionally perfect at manipulating, lieing and taking advantage of, they become so mentally disabled ,that they start believing their own lies. You can never know everything is planned for their own benefit. Narcissists don’t know love, they don’t feel love, they only know the feeling that a person is worthless and don’t even deserve a consideration. Know that they believe that’s the only way to relate to people.
So,free yourself from such people before they completely destroy your self-esteem. Just know that it’s not your fault. Walking away from something unhealthy is brave , even my feet stumble on my way out to door ,but I made it. Getting over from a narcissist relationship is so hard cuz it’s on another level of deception, lies and blames that you lost yourself into pulling all this off. Normal relationships don’t have this crazy level of deception.
In the past times when the life was slow, but people were happy. They were happy because they have got time for little things, those little things were not little at all.
They had time to smell the roses, and to feel the breeze. They invest the time in themselves and smell the fragrance of earth in Rains. Their eyes explore the skies for rainbows. They bathed in sun and counted stars at night. They look for constellations in night skies .
Life was slow but the lives were good. Happiness connected well without wi-fi. Today,I only see sad eyes on smiling faces ,sad and discontented hearts no-one can see.
You are free to choose , but you are not free from the consequences of your choice.
Never give up, and you will be greatful for this, because later every struggle, ups n’ downs, challenges and disappointments will make sense. Blessings are on their way to reach you.
If you see the magnitude of battle you are fighting, is large, then you can imagine the size of blessing coming.
Every good day will make you remember the fights that you have fought. You’ll be thankfull that you didn’t give up.😊