It’s really hard to cope with a narcissist. With them everything is really not possible cuz one just can’t really survive with a narcissist. They hold grudges against you, for the things they did to you. They accuse others of what actually is an unconscious admission of their own character.
Narcissists can’t think about fixing themselves cuz they believe nothing is really wrong with them, but everyone around them is wrong, cruel and unkind to them.
And it’s heart breaking what they can actually do. They ruin people’s lives and move on like they did nothing wrong. They move on with no remorse, they don’t know what guilt is, cuz according to their belief they are the righteous. My experience with a narcissist says, their favourite sport is ‘the blame game’. They always need someone to put the blames on. They blame others for failures, bad physical health, and anything that’s not going good in their life. They keep telling you that you are toxic in their life. Narcissist uses their ex as an excuse for why they are in a merciful condition, when the reality is exactly the opposite.
Whatever a narcissist do is for a complete show off. They would help the helpless only to create a ‘fake nice image’ to the outside world. They love to pretend how great and kind they are.
What I have most observed in a narcissist is ,they claim themselves as victor as well as the victim at the very same moment , one just can’t figure out how to treat them at the moment. If one would treat them as victor ,they feel that the person is careless about them ,and not Interested in their issues!! And if they are treated like a victim, they get offended. It’s really hard to put up with such people.
They are exceptionally perfect at manipulating, lieing and taking advantage of, they become so mentally disabled ,that they start believing their own lies. You can never know everything is planned for their own benefit. Narcissists don’t know love, they don’t feel love, they only know the feeling that a person is worthless and don’t even deserve a consideration. Know that they believe that’s the only way to relate to people.
So,free yourself from such people before they completely destroy your self-esteem. Just know that it’s not your fault. Walking away from something unhealthy is brave , even my feet stumble on my way out to door ,but I made it. Getting over from a narcissist relationship is so hard cuz it’s on another level of deception, lies and blames that you lost yourself into pulling all this off. Normal relationships don’t have this crazy level of deception.